Don’t Take Things For Granted
Just watched this korean movie online. Not bad. Yet another movie compared to My Sassy Girl. Yet again, not comparable.
I read the papers some time ago where they interviewed a few of our local celebrities on why marriages fail. And I totally agreed with what 1 of them said. Gradually, we take each other for granted. We are so guilty of that, aren’t we? Not only to your spouse, but the people around you or even the things around you. Ever thanked your Mom for cooking, washing and doing so many other things for you? I never did. THANKS MOM! Ok, I just did. Actually, at some point of time in my life, I included thanking God for everything I possess and constantly reminded myself everyday not to take things for granted. I don’t know if it would be just a routine prayer in years to come, but I try to keep telling myself so that I wouldn’t take things for granted.
Couples. How thrilled were we when our love ones cook for us for the very first time? Thank them? Hug them? Kiss them? How about a year later? 5 years later? Some people believe that such politeness can be spared when two people are much closer. Ok, words aside then. Are you appreciative at all? Or has it already become something he or she is obliged to do for you. In the army, I learned two words. ‘Entitlement’ and ‘Privilege’. A lot of things we possess are privileges, not entitlements. It is your privilege that your Mom cooks for you. She’s not entitled to do so.
Another factor I feel must exist in a relationship is compromising. In a family, we naturally grown used to compromising each other. Not in a relationship though. People break up nowadays with the slightest reason. Gone were the days couples were so embarrassed to do a divorce. Of course, there are pros and cons. But if divorces are going to be so convenient, less people are going to try making things work out. There’s this chinese saying that goes like “If you are happy, you be together. If not, do a break-up”. It reflects the society now, doesn’t it? Simple words with heavy consequences.
Couples. How thrilled were we when our love ones cook for us for the very first time? Thank them? Hug them? Kiss them? How about a year later? 5 years later? Some people believe that such politeness can be spared when two people are much closer. Ok, words aside then. Are you appreciative at all? Or has it already become something he or she is obliged to do for you. In the army, I learned two words. ‘Entitlement’ and ‘Privilege’. A lot of things we possess are privileges, not entitlements. It is your privilege that your Mom cooks for you. She’s not entitled to do so.
Another factor I feel must exist in a relationship is compromising. In a family, we naturally grown used to compromising each other. Not in a relationship though. People break up nowadays with the slightest reason. Gone were the days couples were so embarrassed to do a divorce. Of course, there are pros and cons. But if divorces are going to be so convenient, less people are going to try making things work out. There’s this chinese saying that goes like “If you are happy, you be together. If not, do a break-up”. It reflects the society now, doesn’t it? Simple words with heavy consequences.
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“Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.”
“Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.”
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